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Colorways grew out of my love for art and design, and my passion for paint and color. I feel confident about my abilities in those areas, but admittedly blogging is more of a learn as I go endeavor. I think learning is life long, and part of learning is trying new things and stepping out of your comfort zone. For me, out of my comfort zone, is all things related to being in front of a camera, especially the videos.

I am so fortunate to work with professional, talented individuals, John, Caleb, and Nate, who take care of all the technical aspects of shooting and editing the tutorials. I trust them and their abilities or I couldn’t do it. And believe me, it is my least favorite part of blogging. My anxiety level during shooting is off the charts, but I hope I’m improving, (I know I’m trying), and I do feel the videos offer a better way to communicate some my techniques.

So when I heard from one of my readers wrote that she was very disappointed in the Brass Chandelier videos I posted last week, it was a bit painful. I’ve seen some very ugly comments on other blogs, but this was not like that. She had watched all three parts and was quite specific in her criticism. I appreciate that she took the time to give me feedback when she could have silently unsubscribed and stopped following my blog. I really do value her opinion.

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I welcome your honest, thoughtful feedback. It helps me grow and learn as a blogger and a person, although it can be hard to read sometimes. I wish I could personally respond to each one, that has become increasingly difficult as the blog has grown. I do read every email and comment, I take each one seriously, and hopefully not to too personally.

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Janet

I’ve only watched your videos on paint layering and found them very helpful. I give you enormous credit for appearing in front of a camera and sharing your knowledge- I’m sure it’s very anxiety producing! Please keep doing what you do ……I imagine the more you do, the easier it becomes!

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Leslie Stocker

Thanks Janet,
I think most talents are 90% practice. If that’s the case, I can only improve:) I appreciate your support
Fondly,
Leslie

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Eve

Oh no, how rude. So sorry for you. Your quote:’ I think learning is life long, and part of learning is trying new things and stepping out of your comfort zone’ is so true and no person on earth is perfect or has a perfect talent, so it is rude to criticize other peoples work. Leslie your work is great and I think your followers that enjoy your work will agree. Stay strong girl and let the negative go, grab on to the challenge…keep on creating new things.

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Leslie Stocker

Thanks Eve,
And don’t worry, I’m not so fragile as to give up from critical feedback, and believe me it was not nasty or hateful in any way. Mean comments are actually easier to dismiss. I just have a steep learning curve. I appreciate your support
Fondly,
Leslie xxoo

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Jackie

Oh for goodness sake……….some people obviously don’t have much going on in their life if they have the time to be so specifically negative.
I find your tutorials interesting and informative even if though I do paint furniture in a different style to you.
If I just learn one thing from them I am more than happy.
Keep up the good work!
Jackie from Australia

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Leslie Stocker

Hi Jackie from Australia,
The tutorials are so difficult for me that I’m probably hypersensitive about criticism. But thankfully I work with an amazingly patient and talented group, so hopefully they will get easier and more importantly better.
Since you’re in Australia, be sure to check out my favorite blog by Fiona Gaven, http://www.lilyfieldlife.com I have learned so much from her generous sharing.
Fondly,
Leslie xxoo

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marilyn fabbro

I love your blog!!!
It’s so easy for these negative people to criticize because the internet provides anonymity for them to spew their venom. The information is free and a great deal of work done by the blogger for others’ benefit. More importantly, the criticizing person should try doing the exact same endevour and see how they enjoy being put down…they probably wouldn’t take that challenge since they’re basically bullying cowards.

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Leslie Stocker

Marilyn, your kind words of support mean so much, thank you.
Fondly,
Leslie xxoo

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Leslie Stocker

Thanks Shelley for your oh so kind words of support.
Fondly,
Leslie xxoo

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Gail

Once again you take an item or situation needing inprovement and act accordingly with thoughtfulness, insight and grace. Your being a life-pong learner spoke to me specifically since I too believe in life-long learning. The greatest teachers are those who model and guide, allowing the student to assimilate and accomodate information into new knowledge and skills. Chalk painting is much more about art than science, much more about learning and creating
than perfection. in my life-long persuit of not only learning but also sadly, perfection, I find chalk painting so refreshing and encouraging, as well as forgiving!! I hope you continue on the path you have set for yourself. If we travel long and far enough, we will always run into pot holes. Pot holes get our attention, but not our passion and courage to explore and create. Laissez les bons temps rouler, mon ami!!

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Leslie Stocker

Thanks Gail, oh don’t worry, I’m not giving up:) The things you mention that you love about Chalk Paint are the same things I do,especially it’s forgiving nature. I so, so appreciate your support
Fondly,
Leslie xxoo

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tres denizac

Just like with your painting, follow your heart and do it for you!
Thank you for sharing your creativity.
Of course comments like that hurt, because it is a personal thing that you are sharing. It IS personal!

I’m tired of seeing the “perfectly produced” generic

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tres denizac

(oops, hit the send button by mistake).
I’m tired of seeing the “generic” content on line.
Thanks for being original and “human”.

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SK Sartell

Dear Kind Leslie,

As an artist it is always difficult to hear the negative. But as an artist it’s always helpful to hear a good critique. There is such a difference between being nasty and negative, and a professional critique.

I get eyerolls every time I post. The nasties come out of the woodwork and I just have to make myself smile and like you, take advantage of what may have set them off. I can learn from just about anyone but nasties. There is always a way to comment with grace and kindness. Sadly lacking in our new world.

You are always, Always gracious and we are grateful you have the courage to put yourself out there for us in the big bad world.

I love the potholes comments from Gail. We know there are potholes. We just are not always aware as to what is at the bottom of these dark unknown pits…Just keep being brave and jump em. We appreciate you.
sk sartell

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Dawn

Leslie,

I really enjoy your blog and find everything informative and I am so sorry that you received nasty negative comments. I am a scientist and have had many manuscripts and proposals rejected with negative and off-the-wall comments. I still cry after about 40 years in the business. It’s hard to grow a thick skin.

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Jenene S Horner

I love your blog and work, while I’ve been a bit busy lately, haven’t had a chance to watch new Vlogs. Thank you for your honesty and continued efforts to help all of us.

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Patricia @ http://TheBlackSheepShoppe.blogspot.com

I bet she asked for her money back. Oh wait the videos were free to view! I bet they weren’t free to produce though.

I haven’t had a chance to view all your videos yet but have them flagged to watch later. The ones I saw so far gave good information and I feel inspired to paint my fake brass chandelier. I love your blog and all the information you provide. Don’t be discouraged and keep doing what you love.

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Rhonda

Leslie, your work is beautiful and inspiring. It’s sad that someone would criticize someone who is sharing their valuable skill and knowledge. We all have unique styles and thanks to wonderful bloggers like you, we can be inspired to grow. Only an unhappy person would leave an unkind comment. Hopefully they read these comments and will be inspired to “do unto others” as they would have others do unto them. God bless and thanks again for all that you do to inspire !

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Char

You’re far braver than those of us who watch from the sidelines. Your blog is my number one stop for inspiration.

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Kathy

The chandelier transformation was great. I have seen reproductions very similar to what you do for big bucks. For anyone who has a talent for painting your videos are a great inspiration. I really got excited redoing old pieces when I found your tutorials and realized, “I can do this.” I love eclectic style where I can mix beautiful wood pieces with painted pieces. Timeless! Keep up the good work, Leslie. I am a fan.

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Cindy hayes

Leslie, you are talented artist and have given me much inspiration as well as information. There is always someone who has to “rain on the parade”. Keep on doing what you’re doing….a great job!

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Stacey

Leslie,

I get so excited when I see a new video has been posted that I actually stop what I am doing and watch! Not everyone is going to appreciate your style and that is OK! I very much appreciate everything you have shared~you have certainly made my life easier!

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Victoria Hopkins

Gosh Leslie, I watched your videos on transforming the chandelier and only remember being inspired by your comprehensive instructions. Your video tutorials are simple, clear and most of all INSPIRING.
I can’t think why anyone would find anything negative about your tutorial style. I love your tutorials just the way they are!

Cheers,
Victoria

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Sandi Holtzmuller

Leslie,
I have watched the chandelier videos so many times it borders on ridiculous! You are a great painter and I just appreciate the fact that you are sharing. I have seen other work doing this same thing with the same paints that can not hold a candle to yours. You obviously do not like to be on camera so that gives everyone the oportunity to watch what you do with your hands. That is, after all the reason for the videos in the first place. Please do not let the negitive review dampen your enthusiasm for doing the videos. Your videos are really a wonderful source for anyone with a brain who wants to learn techniques from someone who knows what they are doing.
I look forward to your blog everyday. This one not so much! I am sorry for the nasty person who needs to get a life. There is always a rotten apple in every barrel. It always easier to critique than to do.
Thank you for this absolutely beautiful blog. Your site is classy, beautiful and packed with helpful information.

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Jana

You’ve said the feedback was not mean-spirited or bullying, so I won’t take the sender of those comments to task. Hopefully, it was as constructive as the content you offer. And that’s what I really want to say here. I find your blog head and shoulders above most others, and I read a LOT of blogs. Of course, the content is very helpful, creative, fresh, and I also appreciate so many other aspects of your work, right down to the fonts and background colors you choose. It’s clear that you think about facilitating learning for others. The color charts, for example, are such useful, well-constructed tools. You take learning to a whole other level than most bloggers. I don’t read all posts from most of the blogs to which I subscribe, but I read every one of yours. You’ve brought me knowledge and inspiration. I admire and appreciate your work, and I often wish you were nearby so that I could take classes with you in person because the written word and even videos have their limitations when teaching art. Perhaps the commenter was also feeling that same longing for more.

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Diane Souza

I did not view this tutorial but I will state that your color mixing tutorials and colorways website was my “go-to” when I recently used A.S. Scandanavian Pink to paint an ombre dresser for my granddaughter. I was struggling a bit as there were 7 drawers but I kept returning to your website and was successful in the end! Thank you for all your help!
Continue doing what you love

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Lynn Schwarzkopf

Dear Leslie,
Thank you again for sharing your AMAZING talent with all of us. I can’t imagine the time and effort it takes to creat just one video. I look forward to each blog/video posting…..and save every one. Thank you again.

Lynn

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Cheryl

Negative comments, especially cruel comments, made toward someone who is doing nothing more than bringing beauty, information and instruction truly annoy me. I love your talent, tutorials and ideas and absolutely appreciate your willingness and kindness to share with us. Each morning, Colorways is in the top three sites I immediately check while making my coffee. You are the best Leslie, your talent and ideas are an inspiration to someone like me who never thought I could paint ….. thank you for that!

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Mary Brown

Dear Leslie,

I love your work and I love your tutorials. Thank you. Please continue to share your ideas and experience with us and remember that it is paint ! You are painting furniture-beautifully and artfully I might add-but it is paint. We are not watching a tutorial on Delivering Babies or Heart Surgery. It is paint!

However, I will say that if I looked as lovely as you …I would never be camera shy! You are one smart, creative and pretty lady who loves to share. Keep it up!

Mary

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Nancy

I look forward to every one of your posts! You are a true artist and have given me so many great ideas to broadend my own abilities. Thank you so much

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Kathleen

Leslie, I love your video tutorials. You are also my go to blog for color combinations and techniques and the only one who inspires me really. I am not a professional and have so much to learn, I have tried your two color painting technique with duck egg and old white on a hutch and I didn’t 100% like the outcome, but it is okay. I would have liked to create more of the shadowed effect like you do and I just need to watch more of your videos. I loved the chandelier and how it turned out. I certainly appreciate all the information you share and can’t wait to see more. It’s the descriptions of the techniques too that are helpful, how you layer your colors and use different shades of a color that you “recreate” something for us that is very very helpful in your blogs. Of course getting it to look like that on my end may be a problem, you still get us in the right direction and that is extremely helpful. Thanks.

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Susan Frank

Just wanted to say how much I enjoy your blog, your videos and your talent. Keep up the good work! There are so many of us that feel so fortunate to have found such a good teacher. Thank you.

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Susan Frank

Just wanted to say how much I enjoy your blog, your videos and your talent. Keep up the good work! There are so many of us that feel so fortunate to have found such a good teacher. Thank you.

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